The Positive Side of Rejection

I bet a few eyebrows jumped up at reading the title of this post. In fact, right now people are crossing their arms and expelling a bitter laugh or two as they recall the soul-eating, BP-oil-spill darkness that accompanied their last rejection. Something positive? What, it came in an email so no trees had to die to deliver it? Come on, Angela, get real.

happyOkay, first of all, saving trees is a good thing. 🙂 But that’s not what I mean. All rejections, paper or otherwise, have a positive side.

1) A rejection means you’re in the game.

Lots of people talk about getting a novel published…someday. They cite the dream of holding a book in their hands (or on kindle) that will touch other people’s lives. Well, talk is cheap. You, my friend, are not content with talking–you are a DOER. Getting an R means you worked your ass off to learn to write well and then took the leap to submit…something that should be celebrated!

2) A rejection means you believe in yourself and your work.

Unless you’re a masochist, a rejection’s cheese-grater-on-brain feeling isn’t something one braves just for giggles. Everyone in this business knows publication is not for the faint of heart. When on submission, you lay yourself bare and say, “This is my work. I believe in it, and so should you.” The fact that you are willing to take the rejection hit SHOWS how much passion you have. How many other people can say they feel passion for their jobs?

3) A rejection is an opportunity to learn.

Each rejection, even a form, is a chance to re-evaluate what you’re presenting. Look at the materials sent to this agent or editor and put yourself in their shoes. Why did they pass on this? Is the query streamlined and voice-y? Does it contain a compelling hook? Is the writing solid in the sample you sent along–strong characterization, interesting premise, hooks to inspire the reader to keep reading through those first pages? Or are you relying on description or nice writing to pull them in and keep them going until you get to the good part on page 10?

Let’s say you decide the query is solid and the writing sample’s a shining monument to awesome. Ask yourself then if you targeted this person effectively. How much research did you do before hitting send? How well did you know their interests, their recent projects and authors’ work? Did you see they take YA in a forum somewhere and so fired off a query, without checking current websites/blogs/interviews to really understand what projects they want most?

4) A rejection is a challenge to do better.

Writers are fighters. If we weren’t, we’d choose some other profession with friendlier odds. Take the frustration over a rejection and challenge yourself to prove the Rejecter wrong. Turn a critical, honest eye to the material, evaluate, and PAY ATTENTION. Is there an above question that makes you feel a momentary flutter of doubt? If there is, chances are this is an area to focus on before sending your work out again. Let the fire of wanting to prove yourself be the motivation to strive for your very best. Don’t settle for ‘feeling pretty good about’ any aspect of your work or query. Be satisfied only when you feel you have done everything in your power to ensure success.

Final thoughts

Rejections come with the territory, so try not to take them personally. Quality work and careful targeting are key, but it still comes down to a personal preference, something out of the writer’s control. Submission is like marriage, and it takes time to find the right person who will fall in love with your work.

Make it your goal to feel confident about your work and the rest will take care of itself!

Image: Geralt @ Pixabay


Angela is an international speaker and bestselling author who loves to travel, teach, empower writers, and pay-it-forward. She also enjoys dreaming up new tools and resources for One Stop For Writers, a library built to help writers elevate their storytelling.
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39 Responses to The Positive Side of Rejection


  2. Melissa says:

    Seeing as how I received a rejection for a requested full today, I’m feeling a little pouty. But I am definitely of the I’ll-show-you and shaking-fist-in-air mindset.

    I can’t quit. I just can’t.

  3. Julie Musil says:

    Angela, this is the awesomest post EVER! What a positive spin on the yucky part of writing. My favorite? “you’re in the game”

  4. Posey says:

    Well said. 🙂

  5. WOW! Great to see this post resonates with so many people. Rejection is a really tough part of this business, but I really do think that all things have positives to them, and everything that happens to us, good or bad is just another opportunity to learn.

    Keep your chin up and those shoulders straight, because as others have said, rejection is the badge of the writer. Wear it with pride!


  6. Great post! The power of positive thinking can not be underestimated. Way to turn around what all writers think of as a negative thing to a positive one. YAY!

  7. That’s the perfect perspective. Rejection is tough but you can’t be rejected if you never put yourself out there (which means you’ll never be accepted either).

  8. Terrific post! – Like the NY Lottery ads say, “You gotta be in it to win it” – so if you’ve sent out a query/submission, even if it gets rejected, you are that much closer to the ultimate prize, publication.

  9. Angela says:

    I have, unfortunatelly, learned more from rejection than I have from success.

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