Let’s face it, rejection isn’t the fun part of writing. No one wants to find one lurking in the Inbox, or hiding among the bills and leaflets. A tough rejection can turn a good day into a bad one, and a bad day into something that makes us actually look forward to the 2012 Apocalypse.
Rejection is the Dark Side of writing.
In the age of social networks, the ability to purge ourselves of our frustration, anger and hurt over a rejection can be achieved with a few short clicks. Now more than ever, it’s easy to connect with others, sharing details and commiserating. A little crying, a little fist-shaking and we can get on with the day. The question is, should we?
Let’s look at the pros and cons.
Say you blog about your latest rejection. Here’s the pros:
–It helps you feel better.
–The writing process is cathartic.
–You connect with your readership, who are in the same boat.
–Your readers can offer words of encouragement in the comments, providing you with a much-needed pick me up.
And here’s the cons:
–Emotions can affect judgment. You might be too candid or worse, be rude or disrespectful to the person or publishing house that rejected you.
–Voicing your frustrations can sound whiny or sour grape-ish.
–You’re announcing the fact that you’ve been rejected! Anyone can read about it, including the eds and agents you’ve submitted to who are still interested in your work. What will happen to their interest level when they go to check out your web presence and a couple of clicks shows them just how many places have rejected the MS they are now reading?
–It can be viewed as unprofessional. I know, some people might disagree because rejection is a part of the process, but if you are seriously working toward publication, you should always be aware of those who might be among your online audience. Editors and Agents expect you to be able to take rejection or criticism and still remain professional. Six paragraphs of DIE EDITOR DIE isn’t going to endear you to anyone in the business except other frustrated writers.
Bottom line: when you’re out in public, make sure you’re pants are on. Blogs, Tweets, Status Updates, etc are all ways for agents, editors and booksellers to find out more about you and your working style. Be aware of who might be reading about your writing journey–the ups, and the downs.
Angela is a writing coach, international speaker, and bestselling author who loves to travel, teach, empower writers, and pay-it-forward. She also is a founder of One Stop For Writers, a portal to powerful, innovative tools to help writers elevate their storytelling.