Character Skills & Talents: Gaining the Trust of Others

As writers, we want to make our characters as unique and interesting as possible. One way to do this is to give your character a special skill or talent that sets him apart from other people. This might be something small, like having a green thumb or being good with animals, to a larger and more competitive talent like stock car racing or being an award-winning film producer. 

When choosing a talent or skill, think about the personality of your character, his range of experiences and who his role models might have been. Some talents might be genetically imparted while others are created through exposure (such as a character talented at fixing watches from growing up in his father’s watch shop) or grow out of interest (archery, wakeboarding, or magic). Don’t be afraid to be creative and make sure the skill or talent is something that works with the scope of the story. 

Description: Being skilled at getting people to confide in you

Beneficial Strengths or Abilities: being able to read people well, being a good listener, having a knack…

Character Traits Suited for this Skill or Talent: attentive, nurturing, discerning, observant, charming, perceptive…

Required Resources and Training: Being a confidant is more of a natural gift than a trained skill. There are just some people that others feel at ease with; people instinctively trust them and feel comfortable sharing their private feelings. Some confidants…

Associated Stereotypes:  grandmothers, aunts, and other maternal types; the quiet member of a girl clique; therapists and psychologists…

Scenarios Where this Skill Might be Useful:

  • when a character has a secret that needs to be revealed to readers
  • when your character needs information that someone else has
  • when a character needs to bribe or blackmail someone…

Resources for Further Information:

Getting People to Open Up to You

Why Do We Confide in Complete Strangers?

Talents and skills not only make our characters stand out, they often help them attain their goals. So choosing them strategically can greatly enhance both the character and the story.

If this is something you’d like to learn more about, you can find the entries in their entirety at One Stop For Writers, where all our thesauruses are cross-referenced and linked for easy navigation. If you’re interested in seeing a free sampling of the Talent and Skill Thesaurus and our other descriptive collections, head on over and register at One Stop!


Becca Puglisi is an international speaker, writing coach, and bestselling author of The Emotion Thesaurus and its sequels. Her books are available in five languages, are sourced by US universities, and are used by novelists, screenwriters, editors, and psychologists around the world. She is passionate about learning and sharing her knowledge with others through her Writers Helping Writers blog and via One Stop For Writers—a powerhouse online library created to help writers elevate their storytelling. You can find Becca online at both of these spots, as well as on Facebook and Twitter.
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Julie Musil
5 years ago

Love this post! “Being a good listener” is an excellent way to be a good confidant.

Joe Kovacs
5 years ago

Becca, thanks for this insight on providing characters with unusual or stand-out traits. In a lot of stories, the kind of “stand-out” trait that you discuss here is often directly reflective of the character’s nature or stands in direct contrast of their nature. Captain Ahab has a prosthetic leg, or whatever it was–wood, maybe–that served as a replacement leg in the 19th century in Moby Dick. While yes, he physically lost that leg while whaling, the missing leg is also often interpreted as reflective of Ahab’s flawed, stunted nature (monomania). In films like The Mask (with Eric Stolz), the protagonist’s unusually distorted face stands in direct contrast to his kindly nature. You offer some great scenarios above where the character trait you discuss can be used to great effect. Developing that trait as something that speaks to the character’s nature (in other words, making the trait part of character development in addition to a device that advances plot), deepens its power as well. Nice job.

Traci Kenworth
5 years ago

I love the idea of girl dynamics–too often we see girl pitted against girl for the attention of a guy. It’s nice to reflect that not all females or males for that matter, are rivals for their best friend’s other half.

Hiten Vyas
5 years ago

Hi Becca,

This was really interesting article, and I really appreciate the way you described how a confidant character can be created. It reminded me a little of the way I am in real life! Thank you.

5 years ago

Love this trait! Another great one to put focus on, Becca. Thank you! 😀

5 years ago

Becca, EVERYthing you ladies put out here for us comes in handy 😀

Carleen M. Tjader
Carleen M. Tjader
5 years ago

Thank you for this post. I am new to this website and already I love it!