• Skip to primary navigation
  • Skip to main content
  • Skip to primary sidebar
  • Home
  • About
    • About WHW
    • Press Kit
    • Resident Writing Coaches
    • Contact Us
    • Podcasts & Interviews
    • Master Storytelling Newsletter
    • Guest Post Guidelines
    • Privacy Policy
    • Charities & Support
  • Bookstore
    • Bookstore
    • Foreign Editions
    • Book Reviews
    • Free Thesaurus Sampler
  • Blog
  • Software
  • Workshops
  • Resources
    • List of Resources
    • Recommended Writing Books
    • WHW Descriptive Thesaurus Collection
    • Free Tools & Worksheets
    • Grab A Free Show-Dont-Tell Pro Pack
  • WRITERS HELPING WRITERS®
  • Nav Social Menu

    • Email
    • Facebook
    • Instagram
    • Pinterest
    • Twitter
WRITERS HELPING WRITERS®

WRITERS HELPING WRITERS®

Helping writers become bestselling authors

Hiding Emotions From Others: The Just Act Normal Technique

May 8, 2013 by ANGELA ACKERMAN

As humans, we value honesty and strive to be as truthful as we can as often as we can. But in truth, protection is also important to our species, and many times it trumps honesty. To protect ourselves, everyone periodically resorts to deception—to avoid consequences, to get what we want, to keep from hurting ourselves or others.

hide

One of the most common deceptions I see has to do with our emotions. We mislead others to think we’re feeling one way when we’re really feeling something else. Why? To avoid questions we don’t want to answer, to deny our true feelings and avoid having to face them, to save face in front of others, to keep a secret…the possibilities are endless.

Whatever the motivation, we hide our emotions all the time. And this means that our characters should, too. As authors, we need to know how to show this evasiveness in regards to what our characters are feeling.

One of the most common methods for hiding one’s emotions is the Just Act Normal technique. This is when a character disguises their internal feelings by acting like everything’s fine. This is tough to write, because you’ve essentially got to show two things at once. Here’s a good example of this technique from The Outlaws of Sherwood, by Robin McKinley:

   “A wrestler should be a little slippery.” Little John handed Cecily the pot of tallow. 
     She took it from him daintily, her fingertips not touching his hand, and began to use the palms of her hands, rubbing the long round muscles in a circular motion, using the heels of her hands around the shoulder blades, running the edge of her palm down the spine. She was not so young that she did not know what was happening to her: why her heart was beating too fast, why her breath came hard. She knew, and tried to pretend she was Little John’s sister, and failed. 

     “That should do,” she said, after a few of the simultaneously longest and shortest minutes of her life. She absent-mindedly went to rub her sticky hands down the front of her bright new tunic when there was an exclamation from her companion and her arms were nearly jerked out of their sockets as Little John grabbed her wrists. 

     “Not on the tunic! Have you no sense?” 

     He rubbed each of her hands down each of his forearms and she closed her eyes and thought about fraternal relationships. 

     Little John said, “Here—are you all right? I am sorry, did I hurt you?” 

     “Not nearly as much as all the bruises from my quarterstaff lessons, my friend,” she said with a fair imitation of her usual tone. 

This exchange clearly shows Cecily’s true emotion (desire) and her attempt to act normal. Her desire is shown through a number of indicators: in the detailed way that she completes the simple act of applying tallow to Little John’s skin; through her thoughts, which are private and safe; by evading his are you all right question; and through her internal cues, which are also safe. All of these clues—none of which Little John can see—indicate how she really feels. In contrast, her words remain nonchalant, showing him what she wants to convey: normalcy.

When hiding an emotion, it’s easier to lie with our words than with our bodies. This is why we turn away when we don’t want people to see what we’re feeling—to give us time to get our bodies under control while we’re saying, “I’m fine. Everything’s fine.” So when your character needs to hide, try this formula:

Show the true emotion through vehicles that are difficult for others to notice, like internal physical cues and thoughts. Use details, words, and comparisons that indicate whatever emotion your character is truly feeling. Show the false emotion through dialogue and forced body cues that are meant to deceive others: controlling one’s tone of voice, rearranging one’s facial expression, trying to mimic  “normal” gestures, etc.

Emotions are multi-faceted and tricky, but we’ve got to learn to write them clearly if we want to create believable, empathetic characters.

Image: Realworkhard @ Pixabay

ANGELA ACKERMAN
ANGELA ACKERMAN

Angela is a writing coach, international speaker, and bestselling author who loves to travel, teach, empower writers, and pay-it-forward. She also is a founder of One Stop For Writers, a portal to powerful, innovative tools to help writers elevate their storytelling.

Share this:

  • Click to share on Twitter (Opens in new window)
  • Click to share on Facebook (Opens in new window)
  • Click to share on Pinterest (Opens in new window)
  • Click to share on LinkedIn (Opens in new window)
  • Click to share on Tumblr (Opens in new window)
  • Click to email a link to a friend (Opens in new window)
  • Click to share on Reddit (Opens in new window)
  • More
  • Click to print (Opens in new window)

Related

Filed Under: Characters, Emotion, Writing Craft, Writing Lessons

Reader Interactions

Comments

  1. Sean Dent says

    November 9, 2014 at 6:54 pm

    This reminds me of an interview I saw with Rowan Atkinson. The interviewer asked him why he was so good at portraying a drunk. Atkinson said most actors play a drunk by acting drunk, but in reality, when we are drunk, we try to act sober. So when Atkinson plays a drunk, he works hard to convince the view that he’s not</i) drunk.

    • ANGELA ACKERMAN says

      November 10, 2014 at 6:20 pm

      That’s so very true, isn’t it? When we’ve had too much, it’s all about pretending we’re fine, and feeling we have to prove it, too!

  2. livingstorage says

    May 20, 2013 at 2:20 am

    i hide my emotion sometimes but its not good to hide it permanently….
    Ottoman beds

  3. Dan Erickson says

    May 10, 2013 at 11:27 pm

    This is a good point about emotions. I’ve never thought about it, but think I tend to naturally write as you described because it’s human nature, which is what we’re supposed to be studying as writers, right?

  4. Miranda Hardy says

    May 9, 2013 at 6:50 pm

    Great reminder to blend this in with our characterization. I often hide many emotions.

  5. Rosi says

    May 9, 2013 at 6:41 pm

    Great stuff as usual. I will be posting this link on my blog soon.

  6. Cynthia Chapman Willis says

    May 9, 2013 at 4:19 pm

    Awesome post! This is a great example of showing versus telling, I think. The truth is in the character’s actions and body language.

  7. Traci Kenworth says

    May 9, 2013 at 7:50 am

    What a great blog and learning lesson!! I’m trying this deceptive effect right now with my characters. Thanks for the pointers!!

  8. Laura Pauling says

    May 9, 2013 at 6:42 am

    This is so so so true! I think we get so used to it we don’t even realize we do it unless it’s on a large scale.

    Have fun teaching the course! Sounds great!

  9. Becca Puglisi says

    May 8, 2013 at 7:42 pm

    As a newbie writer, I spent so much time getting the fundamentals down, then trying to write everything perfectly. But people aren’t perfect. We aren’t forthright most of the time with what we’re feeling. So often, we choose our words carefully, not so we can be completely honest, but so we can portray what we want people to see. I’m still chewing on this, but I think it’s these deceptions and misleadings that add transparency to our characters and make them real.

  10. Pen N. InkBlog says

    May 8, 2013 at 4:18 pm

    Heading back into my revision to check my non verbal cues. Thank you!

  11. Charlie Holmberg says

    May 8, 2013 at 3:38 pm

    You know, just the other day I was thinking what society would be like if there was no hiding emotions at all. So everyone knew everyone else’s reactions to everything….
    Thanks for the post 🙂

  12. Susanne Drazic says

    May 8, 2013 at 3:06 pm

    Hi, Becca! Great post.

  13. Johanna Garth says

    May 8, 2013 at 1:08 pm

    Such a great post and so much to think about the ways we can play with true emotion vs false emotion to give the reader more depth.

  14. Angela Ackerman says

    May 8, 2013 at 11:41 am

    Great post, Becca. moments like this, because it allows us a way to deepen our characters and show their conflicting emotions to the reader!

  15. Matthew MacNish says

    May 8, 2013 at 11:09 am

    Another great entry! And yes, the war withing must vie with the war without.

  16. Stina Lindenblatt says

    May 8, 2013 at 8:28 am

    This is a great post, Becca. I love writing characters who are trying to hid their real emotions. Apparently I suck at it in real like, as my usually non observant hubby pointed out one day.

  17. Natalie Aguirre says

    May 8, 2013 at 6:39 am

    Great tips. You’re right. We do hide our emotions often and so should our characters.

  18. JeffO says

    May 8, 2013 at 5:37 am

    The art of the cover-up. We spend a huge amount of time and energy trying to ‘act normal.’

Trackbacks

  1. Resources For Describing Emotion says:
    February 26, 2018 at 11:16 am

    […] Hiding Emotions […]

  2. Part Three: Showing Verses Telling | Dust 2 Diamonds says:
    August 6, 2014 at 10:17 am

    […] As humans, we value honesty and strive to be as truthful as we can as often as we can. But in truth, protection is also important to our species, and many times it trumps honesty. To protect ourselves, everyone periodically resorts to deception—to avoid consequences, to get what we want, to keep from hurting ourselves or others. One of the most common deceptions I see has to do with our emotions. We mislead others to think we’re feeling one way when we’re really feeling something else. Why? To avoid questions we don’t want to answer, to deny our true feelings and avoid having to face them, to save face in front of others, to keep a secret…the possibilities are endless. – See more.  […]

Primary Sidebar


Welcome!

Writing is hard. Angela & Becca make it easier. Get ready to level up your fiction with game-changing tools, resources, and advice.

Follow Us

  • Email
  • Facebook
  • Instagram
  • Pinterest
  • Twitter

Subscribe to the Blog

Check your inbox to confirm! If gremlins tried to eat it, you might have to check your spam folder.

Read by Category

Grab Our Button

Writers Helping Writers

Software that Will Change the Writing Game

One Stop for Writers

WRITERS HELPING WRITERS® · Copyright © 2023 · WEBSITE DESIGN BY LAUGH EAT LEARN

Cookies are delicious and ours help make your experience here better. If you continue to use this site we will assume that you are happy with our cookie use. Cookie settingsGOT IT
Privacy & Cookies Policy

Privacy Overview

This website uses cookies to improve your experience while you navigate through the website. Out of these cookies, the cookies that are categorized as necessary are stored on your browser as they are essential for the working of basic functionalities of the website. We also use third-party cookies that help us analyze and understand how you use this website. These cookies will be stored in your browser only with your consent. You also have the option to opt-out of these cookies. But opting out of some of these cookies may have an effect on your browsing experience. More on our Privacy Policy here.
Necessary
Always Enabled
Necessary cookies are absolutely essential for the website to function properly. This category only includes cookies that ensures basic functionalities and security features of the website. These cookies do not store any personal information.
Non-necessary
Any cookies that may not be particularly necessary for the website to function and is used specifically to collect user personal data via analytics, ads, other embedded contents are termed as non-necessary cookies. It is mandatory to procure user consent prior to running these cookies on your website.
SAVE & ACCEPT
 

Loading Comments...