Tips for Weaving Romance into Your Novel

cs-lakinRomance is a part of life, and so it should also play some part in our novels—if we intend for our characters to mirror real life. Even if you don’t write in the romance genre, don’t be too quick to dismiss adding the element of romance to your story.

However, just slapping a few romantic moments into a scene or developing a romantic interest to add flavor may not help your story. In fact, it could even sabotage it.

Depending on your genre and plot, your story structure is going to vary. As will the role romance plays in your novel. And this is important to understand.

Romance Threads Need to Serve a Clear Purpose

Most novels have one engine that drives the story. There is one primary focus or plot the protagonist is involved with. The hero is chasing a visible goal, which is reached or not at the climax of the book. That main goal is not centered on a romantic relationship developing.

Romance, then, is a component of such a story.

If you are writing in any genre other than romance, it’s important to understand the purpose romance can serve in a story.

In most strong story structures, a romance character is either by the hero’s side from the start, acting as an ally or mirror character (who may turn rival), or she’s the “reward” at the end for the hero coming into his true essence and reaching his goal (and, of course, you can reverse the genders here).

Beware of Misdirection

When romance threads don’t follow either of these structures, they usually don’t work well.

Inserting a random romance element partway through a novel to add conflict can cause confusion because it might send the wrong message—that your story is veering in a new direction.

marsFor example, let’s say you are writing a story about a mission to Mars.  The clear plot goal for the hero (and his cast of characters) is to find a way to establish a base and start growing for because earth is dying. This is the basic premise behind the movie Red Planet.

Your hero may have a clear attraction to the female captain, and while that’s palpable to readers, that attraction merely forms the basis for allied support in the story. As the characters meet with obstacles and disasters, and tension ramps toward the climax, there might be moments when the two characters get closer, maybe even seem to be falling in love, with a hint (or more than a hint) at the end that they may get together.

But if partway through the story, the focus shifts to their relationship and the perils and joys of their blooming love, the primary plot will suffer. This applies to romantic entanglements with your secondary characters as well.

Your Chosen Genre Is a Promise to Your Reader

You make a promise to your reader when you establish your story line and genre. If your back-cover copy describes your story as a sci-fi thriller about a mission to Mars, you aren’t targeting romance readers. Those readers aren’t expecting a romance focus. They will be annoyed to see their exciting thriller turn into a romance novel.

So a romance character in non-romance genres can play a strong part, along with other ally or antagonist characters. She might betray the hero and cause him grief. Or she might provide that strong faith in him that keeps him going when all seems lost.

So, just as with the others in your cast of characters, a romance character will either help or hinder the hero in his effort to reach the goal.

We See This in Stories All the Time

We’ve all seen plenty of movies that start off showing the hero going through a divorce or having “failed” in his love relationship. In Outbreak, we see virologist Sam Daniels estranged from his ex-wife Roberta. The crisis of the outbreak throws them together, and as they face the difficult challenges together, their relationship is healed by the end of the movie. He “saves the day and wins the girl.”

This story structure is very common—and that’s because it works. No doubt you can think of a number of movies that follow this basic structure. Another that comes to mind is National Treasure—Book of Secrets, in which Ben Gates’s divorced parents, still fuming and hostile toward each other over a trivial past incident, make up at the end.

booklove2This plot element featuring secondary characters adds humor and tension and problems to the story. But it doesn’t distract or veer the story onto the wrong track. All the bits involving the romance serve the purpose of impacting and affecting Ben’s attempt to reach his goal.

Note, of course, that there is a gradual progression through the entire story, as each incident makes the two characters work through their issues until they get to a place of harmony. This would be considered a subplot for your story.

If you’d like to see how this might lay out in very specific terms, I’ve created a helpful chart that you can download here. It shows how you can layer in just about any subplot over the ten key foundational scenes for a novel.

If you keep this in mind—that any element in a novel, including a romance one—must “orbit” around the premise and plot, helping or hindering the hero in his attempt to reach his goal, you won’t go wrong.

Adding in romance elements can greatly enhance a novel—if done correctly.

In my next post for Writers Helping Writers, I’ll explore what defines a romance novel and how that structure works—and how you can layer romance scenes in over those ten primary ones.

What romance component do you have in your novel—or are thinking of adding? Can you think of any novels or movies that use this typical structure of having the hero “win the girl” in the end as a reward for reaching his goal?

cs-lakin_framedC. S. Lakin is an award-winning novelist, writing instructor, and professional copyeditor who lives in the San Francisco Bay Area. Her award-winning blog for writers, Live Write Thrive, provides deep writing instruction and posts on industry trends. In addition to sixteen novels, Lakin also publishes writing craft books in the series The Writer’s Toolbox, and you can get a copy of Writing the
Heart of Your Story and other free ebooks when you join her Novel Writing Fast Track email group. Find out more about Lakin here and connect with her on social media.

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7 months ago

I liked it because I have a huge collection of Romantic Novels and I love them. Thanks for the nice collection.


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4 years ago

I happen to be writing romance, but found this post quite interesting. Thank you so much for the download that explains weaving in a subplot. I think this will be very helpful for my future writing.
All of the Bond movies (and no doubt the books by Ian Fleming, though I’ve never read them) have a male-female relationship as a subplot. Could the books, written beginning in 1953 have begun a trend to create action plots with romantic subplots?
I’m quite sure that, currently, Hollywood likes to have/adds romance as subplot in most action movies so they will appeal to both men and women. I call them Date Movies.

4 years ago

I have a romance subplot woven into my current novel. It doesn’t really affect the main plot at all, it’s just kind of a side plot that’s been there from the very first scene. But, one of the things I will be working on during the revision phase is the overarching plot/goal, so hopefully I will be able to make the two plots combine a bit.
And thanks for the great post! It was really helpful. 🙂

C. S. Lakin
4 years ago
Reply to  Talia

Hi Talia, thanks. I have a number of posts on my blog Live Write Thrive that goes much deeper into layering plots and subplots and weaving in romance. In the next post for Writers Helping Writers, I’ll show a bit about that layering process.

Mary Kate
4 years ago

I write YA, so romance isn’t necessarily a requirement, but a lot of YA often includes it. In the first novel I wrote, I don’t quite have romance, but I do have a good amount of sexual tension (that I plan to resolve in the sequels to that book). For me that’s the thing that really grabs me and pulls me into a story–the ‘will they or won’t they’. In the other two manuscripts I’ve written, the romance is more front and center, but again they’re the slow-burn kind where you’re not even sure whether or not these characters are going to get together until the end, when they do. I’m not sure I’d ever be interested in writing about an already established couple, haha — for me, it’s all about what happens if these two people were to act on these feelings, in addition to everything else going on in the plot.

4 years ago

I’m really liking this, Becca ’cause I only want to “weave” the romance, not make it the main focus 🙂 Thanks!