Character Traits Thesaurus Entry: Bossy

Definition: A person inclined to dominate, dictate, be pushy and overbearing

Characters in Literature: Hermione Granger (Harry Potter), Mr. Dussel (The Diary of Anne Frank)

Common Portrayals: An overseer who is always hovering and micro-managing, the student waving his hand in the air, speaking out of turn, interrupting, correcting misinformation, offering information that may or may not be relevant simply to show how much they know, sneering, sniffing in disdain, looking down their noses at people, offering advice when it isn’t wanted

Possible Cliches to Avoid: The overbearing schoolgirl or bossy little sister, the clearly incompetent but dictatorial manager, know-it-alls

Twists on the Traditional Bossy:

  • Instead of having a Bossy character who’s bossy just for the sake of meanness, give him a reason to be that way. Show why he is the way he is.
  • Create a Bossy who knows he’s incompetent and doesn’t hide it, but for whatever reason, still is compelled to push people around
  • Bossies don’t have to be know-it-alls! A person might be bossy by constantly finding fault and criticizing others in an effort to change them. Another kind of Bossy could be the expert at  “delegating” (ie, sitting back and giving orders while others do the work). Redefine Bossy to make it work in a new way.
  • Traditionally, villains and mentors are bossy. Try a bossy hero or trickster instead.

Additional characteristics to make your Bossy unique or unusual: polite, nervous, shy, thoughtful, affectionate, charming, charismatic, non-confrontational


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Rachna Chhabria
9 years ago

Thanks for this great post. Its really helpful. Btw… I like Hermione quite a bit 😉

Lynda R Young
9 years ago

I love the twists on bossy characters. This is really helpful. Thanks

Angela Ackerman
9 years ago

Thanks everyone for the comments and support of our newest Thesaurus collection. We’re very excited to be tackling characters for this one. 🙂

Melissa Lemon
9 years ago

I love these posts about character and setting that you are doing. They are insightful and helpful. Thanks!

Elaine AM Smith
9 years ago

Great post! My sister gets bossy when she worries – if she can’t be there or she thinks there might be danger again she bosses. It is her over-protective streak coming out 😉

Cynthia Chapman Willis

This is so great, Becca. I know quite a few bossies and they all fit your descriptions. Thank you for this.

Matthew MacNish
9 years ago

Very nice, well done Becca. I love that once you two are done with this series, we’ll be able to look through different character traits to combine several of them into a single character, which is what people are really like.

Kelly Hashway
9 years ago

I loved Hermione! I think I secretly like bossy characters though.

9 years ago

Love this! The best part about this is that I’m NOT bossy… and I know for sure now, ’cause of this definition. Thanks for that!

Leonardo Pisano
9 years ago

Great post. As an addition may be the following is interesting for the community here:

I have a bossy antagonist in my conspiracy thriller The Money Pit. I have made him knowledgeable and a true leader. He is irritating, impatient all that. But, and I have come across people like that, he is charming when only one other person is in the room, yet ‘the boss’ when more than one people are around. Then he doesn’t accept criticism, is belittling, etc.

9 years ago

Thanks for this. I can see a cliche in my own wip. I’ll definitely look into changing some character traits.

Becca Puglisi
9 years ago

I think this is going to be a fun series. Hopefully it will help us come up with some truly unique characters 🙂

9 years ago

Bossy trickster. Hmmmm…

Laura Pauling
9 years ago

Thanks! Great post. I love that picture you found. And I don’t have bossy tendencies at all. NOoo.

Michelle Gregory
9 years ago

i can already see this series will be great.

Sharon Tillotson
9 years ago

Great post! Love the pix. Thanks…

9 years ago

What a great dissection of this trait.

Lisa Gail Green
9 years ago

You know, I just LOVE that you are listing possible cliches. Awesome!

The Golden Eagle
9 years ago

I like the idea of creating a bossy hero–it’s definitely a realistic trait. 😛

Great post!

Jeff King
9 years ago

Love it… thx.

Holly Ruggiero
9 years ago

Great first entry!

Stefanie J Pristavu
9 years ago

Create a Bossy who knows he’s incompetent and doesn’t hide it, but for whatever reason, still is compelled to push people around – Loved this – this is exactly what I’m trying to pull off in my writing 🙂

9 years ago

Wonder how many of us squirmed just a little as we read this post LOL? I like the suggestion to put a twist on the cliches, well done.

Susan Flett Swiderski
9 years ago

Thanks for the comprehensive insights. Great job. And then there’s another kind of boss, like me. I don’t SEEK leadership roles, but somehow, they are eternally thrust upon me. Guess that makes me a reluctant boss.