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Emotional Wound Entry: Being So Beautiful It’s All People See

August 13, 2016 by ANGELA ACKERMAN

When you’re writing a character, it’s important to know why she is the way she is. Knowing her backstory is important to achieving this end, and one of the most impactful pieces of a character’s backstory is her emotional wound. This negative experience from the past is so intense that a character will go to great lengths to avoid experiencing that kind of pain and negative emotion again. As a result, certain behaviors, beliefs, and character traits will emerge.

beauty1Characters, like real people, are unique, and will respond to wounding events differently. The vast array of possible emotional wounds combined with each character’s personality gives you many options in terms of how your character will turn out. With the right amount of exploration, you should be able to come up with a character whose past appropriately affects her present, resulting in a realistic character that will ring true with readers. Understanding what wounds a protagonist bears will also help you plot out her arc, creating a compelling journey of change that will satisfy readers.

We hope the sample list of ideas below will help you see how emotional trauma will influence your character’s behavior and mindset. For the full entry of this and over 100 other emotional wounds, check into our bestselling resource, The Emotional Wound Thesaurus: A Writer’s Guide to Character Expression.

Being So Beautiful It’s All People See

NOTE: We realize that sometimes a wound we profile may have personal meaning, stirring up the past for some of our readers. It is not our intent to create emotional turmoil. Please know that we research each wounding topic carefully to treat it with the utmost respect. 

Basic Needs Often Compromised By This Wound: safety and security, love and belonging, esteem and recognition, self-actualization

False Beliefs That May Be Embraced As a Result of This Wound:

  • my only worth is in my looks
  • I will never be respected for my hard work, brains, or skills
  • people only want to be close because of how I look and what my beauty can do for them…

Positive Attributes That May Result: cautious, charming, courteous, cooperative, disciplined, easygoing, extroverted, flirtatious, friendly, generous, gentle. honorable…

Negative Traits That May Result: abrasive, addictive, catty, childish, cocky, cynical, defensive, dishonest, extravagant, flaky, frivolous, gossipy, haughty, hypocritical…

Resulting Fears:

  • fear of stalking, violence, and sexual assault (especially women)
  • fear of being taken advantage of
  • fear of being trapped by one’s own beauty (life choices, career, opportunities)…

Possible Habits That May Emerge:

  • meticulous health and beauty regimes
  • dieting and working out
  • questioning and second guessing one’s choices (a deep need for approval or fitting in)
  • people-pleasing
  • avoiding close relationships (over doubt as to if they are “real” or not)…

TIP: If you need help understanding the impact of these factors, please read our introductory post on the Emotional Wound Thesaurus. For our current list of Emotional Wound Entries, go here.

For other Descriptive Thesaurus Collections, go here.

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Which emotional wounds are haunting your characters and keeping them from being whole and fulfilled?

Emotional wounds are incredibly formative, changing how a character views the world, causing trust issues, damaging their self-worth, dictating how they will interact with other people, and making it harder for them to achieve their goals. As such, understanding your character’s wound is vitally important to your overall story.

To help with this, we have integrated this thesaurus into our online library at One Stop For Writers.

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Each entry has been enhanced and expanded to provide even more helpful information about your character’s wounds and is cross-referenced with our other thesauruses for easy searchability. We’ve also included a must-see tutorial on this topic—a crash-course on how a wound impacts the affected character and the role wounds play in his or her arc over the course of a story. Interested in seeing a sampling of our completed wound thesaurus entries?  Head on over and register for free!

On the other hand, if you prefer your references in book form, we’ve got you covered, too, because this thesaurus is now available for purchase in both digital and print form. In addition to the 120+ entries, each book contains instructional front matter to help you understand wounds and how they’ll affect your character and story. With chapters about the wound’s aftereffects and how the event ties in to the character arc, along with ideas on brainstorming your character’s wound and how to best reveal the trauma to readers, this book will be your go-to resource for connecting the backstory dots and coming up with characters who are well-rounded and realistic.

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ANGELA ACKERMAN
ANGELA ACKERMAN

Angela is a writing coach, international speaker, and bestselling author who loves to travel, teach, empower writers, and pay-it-forward. She also is a founder of One Stop For Writers, a portal to powerful, innovative tools to help writers elevate their storytelling.

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  1. Bill Krieger says

    August 13, 2016 at 6:39 pm

    Angela, thank you so much for this. When you recently called for suggestions, I asked for this specific topic and could not be more pleased. Rest assured, no matter how many emotional wounds you post before you release them as a book, I will purchase a copy. I’m confident of this because I originally bought the online versions of your thesauruses and have since recollected the whole set in hard copy. (Hmmmm. I wonder what emotional wound makes me do that?) Thanks again. — Bill

    • ANGELA ACKERMAN says

      August 15, 2016 at 10:46 pm

      I don’t think it’s an emotional wound, haha–I am the same way with craft books. Some information I just find i absorb better when it’s paper. 🙂 Very glad the entry helps!

  2. Sacha Black says

    August 13, 2016 at 2:43 pm

    Oooooh this is a good one. I wouldn’t have thought of this. I am already drooling over the book!

    • ANGELA ACKERMAN says

      August 15, 2016 at 10:46 pm

      Thanks Sacha!

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