Emotional Wound Entry: Being Bullied

When you’re writing a character, it’s important to know why she is the way she is. Knowing her backstory is important to achieving this end, and one of the most impactful pieces of a character’s backstory is her emotional wound. This negative experience from the past is so intense that a character will go to great lengths to avoid experiencing that kind of pain and negative emotion again. As a result, certain behaviors, beliefs, and character traits will emerge.

bullyCharacters, like real people, are unique, and will respond to wounding events differently. The vast array of possible emotional wounds combined with each character’s personality gives you many options in terms of how your character will turn out. With the right amount of exploration, you should be able to come up with a character whose past appropriately affects her present, resulting in a realistic character that will ring true with readers. Understanding what wounds a protagonist bears will also help you plot out her arc, creating a compelling journey of change that will satisfy readers.

NOTE: We realize that sometimes a wound we profile may have personal meaning, stirring up the past for some of our readers. It is not our intent to create emotional turmoil. Please know that we research each wounding topic carefully to treat it with the utmost respect. 

We hope the sample list of ideas below will help you see how emotional trauma will influence your character’s behavior and mindset. For the full entry of this and over 100 other emotional wounds, check into our bestselling resource, The Emotional Wound Thesaurus: A Writer’s Guide to Character Expression.



  • demanding parents or relatives who push “for one’s own good”
  • siblings that have power or authority (older or larger, big personalities, etc.)
  • a classmate who takes aim…

Basic Needs Often Compromised By This Wound: physiological needs, safety and security, love and belonging, esteem and recognition, self-actualization

False Beliefs That May Be Embraced As a Result of This Wound:

  • I deserve this
  • I am defective
  • This pain will never end unless I end it
  • There are no good people in this world…

Positive Attributes That May Result: affectionate, alert, analytical, appreciative, cautious, cooperative, courageous, diplomatic, disciplined, efficient, empathetic, generous…

Negative Traits That May Result: abrasive, addictive, antisocial, callous, confrontational, cowardly, cruel, cynical, defensive, dishonest, disrespectful, evasive…

Resulting Fears:

  • fear of relationships (trust issues)
  • fear of being alone
  • fear of being in the presence of the bully
  • fear of violence and pain…

Possible Habits That May Emerge:

  • being late (as a result of it being difficult to get up and face the day ahead)
  • avoiding social events, especially those tied to a common location for bullying (e.g. office parties if the workplace is involved)
  • finding a safe place to be alone during lunch hours and idle periods
  • not making eye contact or engaging others in conversation
  • agreeing in hopes the situation won’t escalate or devolve into a humiliating situation…

TIP: If you need help understanding the impact of these factors, please read our introductory post on the Emotional Wound Thesaurus. For our current list of Emotional Wound Entries, go here.

For other Descriptive Thesaurus Collections, go here.

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Which emotional wounds are haunting your characters and keeping them from being whole and fulfilled?

Emotional wounds are incredibly formative, changing how a character views the world, causing trust issues, damaging their self-worth, dictating how they will interact with other people, and making it harder for them to achieve their goals. As such, understanding your character’s wound is vitally important to your overall story.

To help with this, we have integrated this thesaurus into our online library at One Stop For Writers.


Each entry has been enhanced and expanded to provide even more helpful information about your character’s wounds and is cross-referenced with our other thesauruses for easy searchability. We’ve also included a must-see tutorial on this topic—a crash-course on how a wound impacts the affected character and the role wounds play in his or her arc over the course of a story. Interested in seeing a sampling of our completed wound thesaurus entries?  Head on over and register for free!

On the other hand, if you prefer your references in book form, we’ve got you covered, too, because this thesaurus is now available for purchase in both digital and print form. In addition to the 120+ entries, each book contains instructional front matter to help you understand wounds and how they’ll affect your character and story. With chapters about the wound’s aftereffects and how the event ties in to the character arc, along with ideas on brainstorming your character’s wound and how to best reveal the trauma to readers, this book will be your go-to resource for connecting the backstory dots and coming up with characters who are well-rounded and realistic.





Angela is a writing coach, international speaker, and bestselling author who loves to travel, teach, empower writers, and pay-it-forward. She also is a founder of One Stop For Writers, a portal to powerful, innovative tools to help writers elevate their storytelling.
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David H. Safford
4 years ago

These profiles are so powerful. I love how open-ended they are, too. Nothing about this is “stereotypical,” but rather deeply exploratory, examining all the ways that bullying can scar us and (hopefully) encourage us to overcome. Thank you for empowering your readers to create fully realized characters!

Nicholas Adams
4 years ago

Wow! I just read a whole article all about myself as a survivor of bullying. So many traits and habits (positive and negative) resonated with me.

4 years ago
Reply to  Nicholas Adams

I’m so sorry you’ve had personal experience with this, Nicholas. Thanks for letting us know that the post was on target.


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Traci Kenworth
4 years ago

A powerful topic!!

Jennifer Lane
4 years ago

I have seen PTSD develop as a result of bullying. 🙁

Maria Hossain
4 years ago

Yesssss!!! I was waiting so long for a post about being bullied. Thank you, Ms. Ackerman for the helpful post! 🙂 🙂 🙂