Relationship Thesaurus Entry: Host and Guest

Successful stories are driven by authentic and interesting characters, so it’s important to craft them carefully. But characters don’t usually exist in a vacuum; throughout the course of your story, they’ll live, work, play, and fight with other cast members. Some of those relationships are positive and supportive, pushing the protagonist to positive growth and helping them achieve their goals. Other relationships do exactly the opposite, derailing your character’s confidence and self-worth or they cause friction and conflict that leads to fallout and disruption. Many relationships hover somewhere in the middle. A balanced story will require a mix of these dynamics.

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Host and Guest

Description: A host or hostess is someone who welcomes and entertains guests at a venue, function, or in their own home. They are responsible for taking care of the needs of their guests, making them feel both valued and special. In this relationship, self-worth is tied to each person’s role. The guest feels valued through inclusion; depending on the event, the importance tied to other attendees, and the situation, inclusion is a symbol of status and respect. In turn, the host takes pride in their role and the experience they offer guests. Their ability to oversee a successful event (which sometimes also means having to set aside personal feelings or ignore politics) will raise their esteem in the eyes of others, in turn feeding their self-worth…

Relationship Dynamics:
Each relationship is different, depending on the people involved, their history together, their individual personalities, and a host of factors. Below are a wide range of dynamics that can accompany this relationship. Use the ideas that suit your story and work best for your characters to bring about and/or resolve the necessary conflict.

Respect and appreciation that flows both ways
Ensuring the other party has any information they need (where to find things, a timetable of activities, and any special requirements, allergies, constraints, or expectations the other may need to know)
Being appreciative of the other’s time and attention
Playing peacekeeper and discouraging drama should it crop up
Noticeable friction between a host and guest that makes others uncomfortable

Clashing Personality Trait Combinations: Generosity and greed, kindness and ungrateful, observant and secretive, vain and simple, nosy and private, extroverted and introverted, proper and rebellious, reckless and responsible

Negative Outcomes of Friction
A host losing their temper and creating a scene
Property damage
Ruining someone’s reputation through careless words

Ways This Relationship May Lead to Positive Change
Characters who struggle socially may find that playing a role (host or guest) takes some of the pressure off because they have guidelines on what is expected of them
When there’s friction between characters, they must put it aside as the relationship of host and guest requires decorum. Civility may create a gap where old hurts can be addressed and worked through

Themes and Symbols That Can Be Explored through This Relationship
A Fall from Grace, Alienation, A Quest for Knowledge, Betrayal, Danger, Death, Deception, Family, Friendship, Love, Mystery, Obstacles, Order, Peace, Recognition, Refuge, Teamwork, Vanity, Wealth

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