Relationship Thesaurus Entry: Adult Child and Elderly Parent

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Adult Child and Elderly Parent

Description:
The relationship between a child and their elderly parent can be riddled with challenges. Oftentimes, the child must care for the aging parent as their health needs rise and their ability to maintain independence declines. But the roles are sometimes reversed, with an elderly parent still needing to fill the parental role for their adult child. If existing conflict is a major factor in the relationship, dynamics such as neglect, resentment, and strife may preclude each party from meeting one another’s needs.

Relationship Dynamics
Below are a wide range of dynamics that may accompany this relationship. Use the ideas that suit your story and work best for your characters to bring about and/or resolve the necessary conflict. 

An elderly parent and adult child who speak everyday (via phone, Skype, FaceTime, etc.) and offer mutual support
The younger party caring for their aging parent in the child’s home
Personality differences or past wounds making intimacy between the parties difficult
One party verbally or physically abusing the other

Challenges That Could Threaten The Status Quo
The elderly parent getting injured, falling ill, or receiving a life-changing medical diagnosis
The spouse of either party leaving or dying
Either party losing their home or financial stability

Clashing Personality Trait Combinations
Independent and Needy, Judgmental and Oversensitive, Responsible and Uncooperative, Trusting and Manipulative, Nurturing and Withdrawn

Negative Outcomes of Friction
The parties becoming estranged
Feelings of resentment and anger growing within the relationship
Fighting with other family members about the parent’s care

Ways This Relationship May Lead to Positive Change
Close proximity requiring both parties to become more accommodating and accepting
The passing of valuable knowledge and insight into family history and life lessons

Themes and Symbols That Can Be Explored through This Relationship
A Fall from Grace, Alienation, Crossroads, Death, Depression, Disorder, Endings, Family, Friendship

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