Successful stories are driven by authentic and interesting characters, so it’s important to craft them carefully. But characters don’t usually exist in a vacuum; throughout the course of your story, they’ll live, work, play, and fight with other cast members. Some of those relationships are positive and supportive, pushing the protagonist to positive growth and helping them achieve their goals. Other relationships do exactly the opposite, derailing your character’s confidence and self-worth or they cause friction and conflict that leads to fallout and disruption. Many relationships hover somewhere in the middle. A balanced story will require a mix of these dynamics.
The purpose of this thesaurus is to encourage you to explore the kinds of relationships that might be good for your story and figure out what each might look like. Think about what a character needs (good and bad), and build a network of connections for him or her that will challenge them, showcase their innermost qualities, and bind readers to their relationship trials and triumphs.
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Parent and Adult Child
Description:
The parent/child relationship changes drastically as both parties reach adulthood and maturity. With perspective, the adult child may develop feelings of empathy, awe, respect, and deeper love for their parent. They may also find themselves coming to grips with a childhood of neglect, abuse, and toxicity. The parent, likewise, may navigate different feelings surrounding their adult child’s life, from pride and satisfaction to shame and guilt. With childhood being a formative time and an adult child being equipped with experience and understanding, this relationship has the potential for powerful dimension.
Relationship Dynamics
Below are a wide range of dynamics that may accompany this relationship. Use the ideas that suit your story and work best for your characters to bring about and/or resolve the necessary conflict.
Each party seeking to meet the other’s needs
The two speaking daily, vacationing together, and otherwise seeking out each other’s company
An adult child and parent who love and respect each other but aren’t very close (due to physical distance, busyness, or another benign reason)
An adult child and parent who have been driven apart by the child’s spouse or significant other
Challenges That Could Threaten The Status Quo
The child wanting to revisit unaddressed childhood trauma
The parent relocating closer to or further away from the child
The parent disapproving of their child’s lifestyle choices
One party making a choice that brings shame to the family
Clashing Personality Trait Combinations
Needy and Independent, Independent and Controlling, Confrontational and Timid, Nurturing and Withdrawn, Ambitious and Lazy, Responsible and Scatterbrained, Responsible and Irresponsible
Negative Outcomes of Friction
Strained social interactions
Other family members being caught in the middle
Feelings of self-doubt and insecurity
Ways This Relationship May Lead to Positive Change
Learning and growing from one another’s perspectives and experiences
An adult child receiving recognition for their accomplishments from their parent
Either party maturing and realizing the part they played in a dysfunctional relationship
Themes and Symbols That Can Be Explored through This Relationship
A fall from grace, Alienation, Beginnings, Betrayal, Coming of age, Deception, Depression, Family, Friendship, Hope, Illness, Inflexibility, Innocence, Instability, Isolation, Journeys, Loss, Love, Mystery, Passage of time, Rebellion, Recognition, Sacrifice, Suffering, Unity
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