How to Juggle Writing and Parenting

While being a parent is one of the greatest joys in life, it comes with its own slew of challenges. As a mother of a toddler, I’ve had to find a way to balance taking care of my darling boy while still working and finding time to write. This has become even more challenging with all the COVID19-related changes that include the closing of schools and many people taking on the role of teacher and tutor.

Striking a balance isn’t easy, and there is no one-size-fits-all for how to juggle being a writer and parent. But these five tips might help you to find a balance in your own life and to be there for your child while not neglecting or giving up your writerly dreams. 

1. Know you can’t do everything, and that’s OK

There simply isn’t the time of day to do all the things. If you are anything like me, that means you are probably juggling working, being a parent, and squeezing in writing time when you can. And the younger your child is, the more attention and time they require. 

Embrace that you can’t be everything for everyone, and that is OK. We can’t take care of the children, clean the house, make all the meals, support our partners, and somehow manage to take care of ourselves.

Not being able to do everything isn’t something to feel guilty about. There is only so much time in the day. It just means you need to aggressively prioritize your schedule (which we will get to shortly). 

2. Set goals 

Do you want to finish a chapter this week? Do you want to send out five query letters to literary agents? Do you want to upload your book to KDP or IngramSpark? Make writing (and publishing) goals for yourself. 

Whatever your goals are, make sure you tell your family. That way, they are aware of what you need to work on and that you need time away from the family in order to accomplish those tasks. That might mean your partner watches your child (or children) in the evening for two hours on Wednesday night or it might mean that your partner handles bath time this week so you can slip away. 

The key here is to communicate your goals so you can team up with your partner, and they can help you with the kiddos so you can achieve your goals. (But don’t forget your partner will also need time to themselves for self-care, too!)

If you don’t have a partner and are a single parent or caregiver, these goals might be self-imposed deadlines to keep yourself on task. 

3. Prioritize your schedule

As I said before, we can’t do ALL the things. It simply isn’t humanly possible. Therefore, you have to aggressively prioritize your schedule. If you can, organize your list of to-dos into the following categories: 1) essential to accomplish and time-sensitive, 2) essential to accomplish but not time-sensitive, 3) not essential to accomplish and time-sensitive, and 4) not essential to accomplish and not time-sensitive. (Check out the Eisenhower Matrix to learn more!)

Examples of the first would be doctor visits for yourself or your family, while examples of the second would be vacuuming or cleaning the house. The third could be something like a phone call from your in-laws or interruption from your child. An example of the fourth is watching Netflix. 

While you do want to prioritize some downtime for yourself throughout your week, Netflix might be the first thing you give up in order to squeeze some writing time in while your child takes a nap or is on a break from school. 

However you prioritize your schedule, remember you are going to have to utilize any and all downtime you get. Is your baby watching television for twenty minutes? Get your laptop out and get some writing in! As I’m writing this blog, my son is eating breakfast and watching an educational kids show. Like I said, utilize any downtime you have! Because, as parents, we don’t get a lot of it… 

4. Treat writing like a job

If you are anything like me or the many writers I’ve talked to who are parents, we feel incredibly guilty spending any time away from our littles. But if you want to be a career author vs. a hobbyist (meaning, you want to write books for a living and make an income from your writing), that means you will need to prioritize writing. 

Sometimes, in order to make writing our job, we must first treat it as a job. In other words, you need to prioritize getting your writing tasks done just like you would for a corporate job. If you didn’t do your work in a corporate setting, you would eventually get fired. 

Now, this isn’t me saying you should treat writing like a job and shift your mindset and approach to writing so it’s so methodical and passionless that you grow to hate it. This is me saying you shouldn’t feel guilty pursuing your passions while being a parent. Just like your child, you have dreams and things you want to accomplish in this life. It’s OK to want to be a good parent AND want to achieve your writerly goals. 

5. It’s not about choosing one over another 

Striking a balance for your writerly dreams and being a parent isn’t about choosing one over the other. It’s about finding time for both.

Sometimes, that means canceling your writing plans for an evening to cuddle with your child. And sometimes, it means your child watches an hour of the television while you chip away at a manuscript. 

Whatever it is, it’s about making sure your child is loved, taken care of, and nurtured while also making time for your writing dreams. 

There is no perfect formula, but as long as you do your best, communicate, and delegate where you can, it’s possible to be a good writer and a good parent to our darling kiddos who deserve the world. 

Pssst! With Mother’s Day coming up, we’ve got a special deal going for writing moms. So if you are one, have one, or know one, take advantage of this discount off our digital Character Traits Boxed Set :).

Meg LaTorre

Resident Writing Coach

Meg LaTorre is a writer, YouTuber (iWriterly), creator of the free query critique platform, Query Hack, co-host of the Publishable show, blogger, and she formerly worked at a literary agency. She also has a background in magazine publishing, medical/technical writing, and journalism. To learn more about Meg, visit her website, follow her on Twitter and Instagram, sign up for her monthly newsletter, and subscribe to her YouTube channel, iWriterly.
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Becca Puglisi is an international speaker, writing coach, and bestselling author of The Emotion Thesaurus and its sequels. Her books are available in five languages, are sourced by US universities, and are used by novelists, screenwriters, editors, and psychologists around the world. She is passionate about learning and sharing her knowledge with others through her Writers Helping Writers blog and via One Stop For Writers—a powerhouse online library created to help writers elevate their storytelling. You can find Becca online at both of these spots, as well as on Facebook and Twitter.
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2 months ago

Thanks for the excellent tips.
Between two jobs and studying full-time, caring for my 17, 11 and 10-year-old boys can be a time challenge but when you add wanting to write into the mix it can be a real strain. I appreciate the tips though and hope that by putting some of them into practice I can work towards finishing my first book.
I had never thought of treating writing like a job before it is a job. I think this tip is probably the one that resonates with me the most. Treat it like a job with real schedules and deadlines. I am hoping that I will be able to incorporate this into my weekly routines and achieve something.


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8 months ago

Thank you, Meg! I feel for all the parents with littles or teens right now. It is challenging. I watch Becca try to stay on top of her workload and wrestle with her kids and their school work…she’s a SAINT.

I have one son at home (21, so grown) and one not, and there are still challenges even with that. Hugs to all the parents out there – you guys are amazing. If you don’t get everything done that you hoped to, please be kind to yourself – you are under a lot of strain and family (and you!) need to come first.

Meg LaTorre
8 months ago

Poor Becca! Sending her coffee vibes☕️

I have one toddler at home, and he’s keeping me busy. So I can only imagine what it’s like for Becca and many other parents right now.

And you are so right, Angela! It’s so important to be kind to ourselves right now.♥️